Guest blogger Jessica: "I spoke through my fear"

Today's guest blogger is Jessica. She writes about her experience asking for... less:

"I needed to take a step back at my hospital job to make room for more consulting projects and private clients. Though not a salaried employee and technically allowed to take on other work, I still knew that the staff factored my availability into their scheduling, so I was anxious about discussing my needs.

From having taken an Ask For It negotiation workshop, I knew that I struggle with giving too much and taking on more than I can handle for fear of seeming ungrateful. I was afraid I’d be accused of asking for too much. Would they let me go? I was equally nervous I’d backpedal into agreeing to sticking with more hours than I could realistically handle and continue skipping cheerfully down the road to burnout.

Going into my meeting having an awareness of my weak points helped me anticipate the feelings that would come up and maintain a sense of calm as I voiced my request for reduced hours.

Fortunately, that request was well-received and opened up a very constructive discussion. Aside from getting exactly the schedule I’d proposed, I walked away feeling like I’d been heard." 


Alexandra Dickinson

Alexandra Dickinson is the CEO and founder of Ask For It, a boutique consulting company working to close the gender wage gap by effecting change at both the institutional and individual level. We work with companies, schools, organizations and individuals through a combination of trainings, workshops and consulting. Our goal is for women and men to be paid based on their talents and skills, regardless of gender, and for our company to have been an important part of that change.